There is a popular metaphor used to deny women full control of our bodies, and used to justify a sexual double standard. It goes like this: "A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock.” This metaphor is … Continue reading The Flimsy Analogy ofPenile-Vaginal Penetrative Sex As A Key And Lock?
There are many ways people pretend to be ethical. A popular way is to focus on religious identities while ignoring the substantive ways in which religious people treat others. As previously discussed, hyper-religious, post-colonial spaces like Ghana pay closer attention to whether people call themselves "Christian" or "Muslim" than to whether people treat other people … Continue reading Why Abusive Men Falsely Believe They’re “Good Guys”: Chivalry’s Distortion of Morality
Regrettably this post exclusively focuses on sexual autonomy in a heterosexual context. The idea of "saving yourself for marriage" is a patriarchal concept that stifles women's sexual autonomy. Even worse, "saving yourself for marriage" places women's right to bodily ownership into men's hands. Utilizing concepts from American Legal Jurisprudence, this essay argues that while men … Continue reading Saving Yourself For Marriage: Examining Women’s Inferior Right To Body Ownership
Dear World, Even if you believe pre-marital sex to be immoral for religious reasons, there is no denying that women in particular are treated cruelly for falling short of this standard. I have had a hard time convincing moderate, conservative, and religious Ghanaian women to shun a sexual double standard that praises men for sex, … Continue reading Open Letter: Sexual Liberation Is About Dignity Not “Sluttiness”
When you live in a society that teaches men that their sexual satisfaction is more important that women's well-being, sexual coercion becomes normalized. As the picture indicates, many men in Ghanaian society are comfortable engaging in dirty tactics that seek to break women's will, rather than create a safe, secure, and comfortable setting for consensual … Continue reading Rape By Another Name: Coercive Sex In Ghanaian Society
https://twitter.com/obaa_boni/status/556881288326819841 Sexism is stealing Ghanaian women's orgasms in the following two ways. First, by attacking women for being sexual. Second, through a backward imagination of sex that causes your boyfriend to jam his penis into your unlubricated vagina repeatedly and overzealously, rabid rabbit style, until you begin quietly praying that this miserable experience masquerading as … Continue reading Shaming Women With “Ashawo” Won’t Make Your Dick Bigger
Originally posted on Di wo Fie Asem Revenge porn is the deliberate posting of a person's nude, sexualized, and intimate images on the internet without their consent. Similar to revenge porn, gendered crimes that hurt women are much more likely to elicit victim blaming responses. Victim blaming is a phenomenon where the focus is shifted … Continue reading The Politics of Revenge Porn In Ghanaian Society
In my previous self I often felt that as a woman it was my duty to be attractive. Like a lifeless exquisite painting meant only to be admired, set in a delightful yet demure exclusive gallery, intentionally picked out by the finest art collectors. My primary purpose was to please aesthetically all those who … Continue reading Beauty and The Bleach: How Patriarchy And Capitalism Conspire To Destroy Ghanaian Women
You're laying at home in the pitch Black dumsor night as the heat wells up in a suffocating manner, further carving within your existence the discomfort of your flesh. You curse the failure of the state and its infrastructure, and you realize that electricity is now a privilege. Meanwhile, Hajia4Real is probably laying on a … Continue reading Hajia4Real : Pussy Power or Perpetuating Patriarchy?