Month: March 2015

The Normalcy of Abnormality

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Just yesterday, I had to suffer through tweets saying women stay in abusive relationships because they enjoy sex with their abusive partners.
Of course I scoffed at this flawed reasoning. Funny enough, the whole conversation did not trigger anything until a few hours ago when I was reminiscing over events in Ghana with my sister.

My sister is one person I admire wholly. She is smart, beautiful, and brave. I will go out of my way to say she is my favourite feminist.
I learnt from her not to take crap from anyone (male or female but especially male) because I’m a girl. No sir, she will speak up and fight right back for justice.

Anyway, so I had decided to not get involved in this issue but during our conversation, she made mention of the night she dared my uncle to hit me again so she reported him to…

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Miseducation of Obiba: Why Ghanaians Stay In Abusive Relationships

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Sex is not a reason why women stay in abusive relationships. The research on domestic violence shows that sex is often traumatic and painful for women suffering abuse. In Ghana, women in abusive relationships often suffer vaginal and anal tears, urine leakages, miscarriages, are at risk of unwanted pregnancy, and are more likely to contract … Continue reading Miseducation of Obiba: Why Ghanaians Stay In Abusive Relationships

Short Post: Vaginas In Ghana, The Elixir Of Bliss

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Yesterday, I had the unfortunate experience of reading brutally negative comments about women with vaginas who engaged in pre-marital sex. So I decided to write this loving post about ALL vaginas, not just women's. Vaginas are a euphoric source of pleasure. They are self-cleaning, self-regulating, and self-contracting independent sexual organs. So I am almost shocked that … Continue reading Short Post: Vaginas In Ghana, The Elixir Of Bliss

Wifey Material: Marriage As A Means Of Ghanaian Women’s Subjugation

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https://twitter.com/S_2Ch/status/528964778258345984 The pressure on women to marry in Ghanaian society is suffocating. While heterosexual marriage is presented as an elective life choice, it is often treated as a necessary requirement that all people, especially women, must accomplish to garner respect and success. Even though marital pressure exists for both men and women, it manifests differently. … Continue reading Wifey Material: Marriage As A Means Of Ghanaian Women’s Subjugation

Christian Without Christ: How Religious Identities Distort Morality In Ghana

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Jesus of Nazareth is hands down one of my favorite people ever. The basis of my initial moral compass, Jesus demanded from us that we help the "least of our brothers".  That we help the poor, heal the sick, and sometimes defend women who have sex outside of marriage when they're about to be killed … Continue reading Christian Without Christ: How Religious Identities Distort Morality In Ghana