Author: ObaaBoni

Why Abusive Men Falsely Believe They’re “Good Guys”: Chivalry’s Distortion of Morality

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There are many ways people pretend to be ethical. A popular way is to focus on religious identities while ignoring the substantive ways in which religious people treat others. As previously discussed, hyper-religious, post-colonial spaces like Ghana pay closer attention to whether people call themselves "Christian" or "Muslim" than to whether people treat other people … Continue reading Why Abusive Men Falsely Believe They’re “Good Guys”: Chivalry’s Distortion of Morality

Saving Yourself For Marriage: Examining Women’s Inferior Right To Body Ownership

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Regrettably this post exclusively focuses on sexual autonomy in a heterosexual context. The idea of "saving yourself for marriage" is a patriarchal concept that stifles women's sexual autonomy. Even worse, "saving yourself for marriage" places women's right to bodily ownership into men's hands. Utilizing concepts from American Legal Jurisprudence, this essay argues that while men … Continue reading Saving Yourself For Marriage: Examining Women’s Inferior Right To Body Ownership

Stand Up For Yourself Girl, Men of Quality Support Gender Equality Anyway

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Let no man convince you that you will only be deserving of love after you have stifled your soul to cower under his big boot.  I mean this sincerely and earnestly when I say: you are beyond foolish if you sacrifice self-sufficient, dignified personhood for a dictator you will also call a husband. Many Ghanaian … Continue reading Stand Up For Yourself Girl, Men of Quality Support Gender Equality Anyway

Postcolonial Grammar Snobs…God’s Biggest Creation Mistake Since Lucifer

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The need to feel superior to others is never ending. It manifests in many ways, but the worst manifestation has to be the self proclaimed grammar snob. Intelligent enough to memorize the rules of a dominant colonial language, self-proclaimed grammar snobs lack the vision to understand that lingual rules are arbitrary and often used as … Continue reading Postcolonial Grammar Snobs…God’s Biggest Creation Mistake Since Lucifer

Name calling “Fetty Abena” : A Lesson On Privilege, Class, and Assholes

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  I am so sick and tired of men attacking women's appearance when women say something that they do not like. The most flagrant display of privilege occurred when a man whose body exists outside of standard notions of acceptability, attacked the woman pictured, on the basis of her appearance. The Twitter user @deezydothis crudely referred … Continue reading Name calling “Fetty Abena” : A Lesson On Privilege, Class, and Assholes

4 Reasons I Hate Being Called A Queen As Being A Human Should Be Enough

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My women friends and I hate being called "Queen". Because often times "Queen" is a way in which sexist men divide women into two categories: one category affords women respect, while the other category dehumanizes and denies women respect. For many sexists, being a human is not enough reason to respect women. Women are thus … Continue reading 4 Reasons I Hate Being Called A Queen As Being A Human Should Be Enough

Open Letter: Sexual Liberation Is About Dignity Not “Sluttiness”

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Dear World, Even if you believe pre-marital sex to be immoral for religious reasons, there is no denying that women in particular are treated cruelly for falling short of this standard. I have had a hard time convincing moderate, conservative, and religious Ghanaian women to shun a sexual double standard that praises men for sex, … Continue reading Open Letter: Sexual Liberation Is About Dignity Not “Sluttiness”