Sexism affects ALL women. Frankly it affects the entire world. However, the malevolent ill-treatment of women is a constant reality for all women. And being a mother does not exempt you from your own son’s degradation. Exhibit A: the post below describes an attempt by a sexist boy within #GhanaTwitter to degrade all women, that goes horribly wrong.
The conversation begun over contesting objectification. Sexual objectification of women means that men are socialized to view casual sex through a lens that does not encourage preserving women’s status as persons.
(excuse the typos casual* sex)
In an attempt to degrade women, the boy behind the user name @jonboi_alberto, creates a binary where women are either bitches or hoes. Leaving no room for non-gendered slurs that retain women’s humanity.
In line with previous Twitter Clap Back. I inquire: Out of the category Bitches and Hoes used to describe women, which one does your mother fall in?
To remain logically consistent with a misogynistic binary of women being bitches and hoes, and to continue to hold on to degrading women and call me a “hoe”, this boy replies that his mother is “the bitch”.
So then I gloated.
Moral of the Story
I wanted to document this fight because:
1. Misogynists are often not the sharpest tools in the tool box.
2. Being a mother will not exempt or save you from being included into predetermined categories of women’s dehumanization.
3. Internet fights are actually spaces of contest where opposing ideas are presented to an observing audience. It is important that misogynistic ideas receive push-back.
4. Remaining free as the oppressed requires us to be able to live outside of the fear of degradation. I am not afraid to be called a bitch, or a whore, or an ugly feminist. It will not silence me. I also encourage oppressed people whose physical and/or emotional safety are not threatened, to venture into a world where slurs are simply a source of amusement.
5. Sexists are so desperate to degrade women, so drunk on patriarchy, that when backed into a corner they will degrade even their own mothers to be able to degrade women.